Why are lawyer’s fees so high?

Many spouses seek my help only after incurring tens of thousands of dollars of attorneys’ fees. Many are amazed at the level of fees that they had occurred in such a small amount of time. Does it have to be this way? The down and dirty answer is: No. But it may help spouses to […]

Wrangling the uncooperative spouse

While many spouses have asked me about various types of grounds for a divorce, they were largely jilted spouses where cheating was involved in the marriage. Almost never had I witnessed a divorce completed on grounds other than no-fault (irreconcilable differences). And while many attorneys will claim adultery or mental cruelty on court documents, those […]

Does your divorce lawyer have the heart?

If your superman seems to be lacking the “super” part, you may have joined the same club as thousands of other spouses with the wrong lawyer. Nearly a third of my clientele came to me after being disappointed with the lackluster approach of their prior attorney. Why are some lawyers just not cut for the […]

Why divorce laws matter when you don’t want one.

I’ve had many discussions with people about divorce laws and how they work.  Many are surprised, if not shocked, that divorce laws are actually more designed for spouses that are not considering a divorce.  Wait, what?  That’s right.  Divorce laws were designed not so much for battling couples, but more so, to provide security to […]

Signs that your husband wants a divorce.

Over the years, I have met with men and women seeking, in contemplation, or in the midst of a divorce. One thing is always true. Women are better at communicating with their spouse about wanting a divorce. Men are far less skilled or tactful about approaching the issue with their wives. Rather, they hide, avoid, […]

Using email service can save thousands in a divorce.

Well, things just got a bit easier in Illinois.  Effective January 1, 2013, Illinois Supreme Court Rule 11 now provides for email service of documents, where previously most lawyers (and spouses representing themselves) were stuck with snail-mail, faxes, or personal delivery.  What does this mean? It will save spouses a ton of money in administration […]

Thought your divorce lawyer keeps your secrets? Think again.

Of all things, spouses feel some sense in comfort that the secrets disclosed to their divorce attorney must be kept secret.  In the legal world, we call this privilege.  And while this is the general rule -no matter how scandalous the information, the rule is not absolute.  There are exceptions.   For example, at attorney […]