Wrangling the uncooperative spouse

While many spouses have asked me about various types of grounds for a divorce, they were largely jilted spouses where cheating was involved in the marriage. Almost never had I witnessed a divorce completed on grounds other than no-fault (irreconcilable differences). And while many attorneys will claim adultery or mental cruelty on court documents, those […]

Retainers – the endangered species

Retainers.  It’s an ugly word, but many attorneys continue to demand a large up-front payment for service to be rendered in the future.  Retainers range between $1,500  to $10,000 in the Chicago-land area.  The average is about $2,000.00.  And unless you’ve got that in your checking account or room on your credit-card, you probably are […]

Why divorce laws matter when you don’t want one.

I’ve had many discussions with people about divorce laws and how they work.  Many are surprised, if not shocked, that divorce laws are actually more designed for spouses that are not considering a divorce.  Wait, what?  That’s right.  Divorce laws were designed not so much for battling couples, but more so, to provide security to […]

Four Shocking Secrets Every Mom Should Know About Divorce

For many mothers, it’s not what you can expect from a divorce that worries many, but rather, it’s the unknown secrets that lurk in the shadows of the process. I’ve been asked, “what should I really worry about?” That answer could draw many hours of conversation, but to narrow it down to 4 quick things […]

How to avoid making the worst mistake in a divorce.

What surprises most, is that you can completely ruin your divorce in the opening thoughts of starting the process. That’s no joke – before you file a document in court, long before your first court date, and even before you’ve told your spouse that you want a divorce, you could have jeopardized your case. How’s […]