With the new tax bill – anticipate that men will sprint to the courthouse

It’s going to be interesting times in 2018 in divorce-land. The new tax law makes significant changes with the ability to deduct alimony payments. Alimony is also called spousal support or maintenance, and on the horizon, you will not be able to deduct those support payments from your income at tax time. Prior to President […]

Why are lawyer’s fees so high?

Many spouses seek my help only after incurring tens of thousands of dollars of attorneys’ fees. Many are amazed at the level of fees that they had occurred in such a small amount of time. Does it have to be this way? The down and dirty answer is: No. But it may help spouses to […]

Wrangling the uncooperative spouse

While many spouses have asked me about various types of grounds for a divorce, they were largely jilted spouses where cheating was involved in the marriage. Almost never had I witnessed a divorce completed on grounds other than no-fault (irreconcilable differences). And while many attorneys will claim adultery or mental cruelty on court documents, those […]

Retainers – the endangered species

Retainers.  It’s an ugly word, but many attorneys continue to demand a large up-front payment for service to be rendered in the future.  Retainers range between $1,500  to $10,000 in the Chicago-land area.  The average is about $2,000.00.  And unless you’ve got that in your checking account or room on your credit-card, you probably are […]

Why divorce laws matter when you don’t want one.

I’ve had many discussions with people about divorce laws and how they work.  Many are surprised, if not shocked, that divorce laws are actually more designed for spouses that are not considering a divorce.  Wait, what?  That’s right.  Divorce laws were designed not so much for battling couples, but more so, to provide security to […]

Four Shocking Secrets Every Mom Should Know About Divorce

For many mothers, it’s not what you can expect from a divorce that worries many, but rather, it’s the unknown secrets that lurk in the shadows of the process. I’ve been asked, “what should I really worry about?” That answer could draw many hours of conversation, but to narrow it down to 4 quick things […]